here I am trying to get a release on my stress, and you get to enjoy my relationship adventures after being cheated on. i’m changing all the names for everyone’s sake.After dating C. for a little over a year, I find out (for the third time) he’s cheated on me. With a coworker. Could it have been any more convenient? She was tall and beautiful. That’s really nice. Why couldn’t she be fat and ugly, so at least I still felt better than her? And since when should I need to feel better about the girl who injected herself into MY relationship? Well, after a summer of making him work his ass off to get me back, I took him back. Things were GREAT for the first few months. And then. It happened. Again. And now, here I am stuck in a shitty position. How can a man make you love him and then go out and find another girl? Another gorgeous girl to make my self-esteem a little worse. Now, he wants to be the consummate boyfriend again. What am I to do? Well, I told him we can’t be together. So what does he do? Says he wants to be together, and now is doing everything he knows I like. He wants to cook for me and come snuggle at night. What is going on here? On a positive note, I got a guy to get my phone number at a bar this weekend. Bar, I know. He probably did it so I would stop talking. Let’s see what happens. See you tomorrow.
and today it was “you pushing me isn’t helping things. I told you I need some time and you just keep on rushing me. It isn’t going to make things go any faster, it just pisses me off.” If you don’t want to fucking be with me just say so and if you do, wouldn’t you want it to be as soon as possible?! I understand that he doesn’t want to look like an ass, but he’s acting like one by doing all of this; apparently being an ass in that sense is ok but being one in the “only hurting one girl instead of two” isn’t. I don’t understand it. I know he doesn’t love her and doesn’t want to be with her, she’s just filling the space until he can be with me but, why does he need a space filler?I asked him “don’t you feel worse when you are with her” his response? “HELL yeah!” So, if that’s the case, why make himself (AND ME) feel worse just because he feels bad for her? She’s a stupid home-wrecker and she doesn’t seem to have a problem with that; is she pathetic or am I?? I can’t figure it out.
